I use to say “Fu🤬k Family!” before I developed my Phoenix Move.
My relationship with my immediate family and friends was a bit shaky.
I found myself trapped in a depressed state of mind majority of the time. I was miserable, stressed out, and lonely.
I didn’t know how to monitor my energy flow and how to shield myself from the shady comments, the lack of support, the judgment, and the constant feeling of always being left out.
I felt like the “Black Sheep.” Literally!
I wasn’t happy.
I felt the best thing for me to do was to put a great amount of distant between them and me. All I needed was space.
So I thought 💭. . .
During the development of my Phoenix Move, I experienced a peaceful awakening that brought my awareness to the truth . . .
The truth is. . .
Running away or secluding myself was never the answer to begin solving my “family and friends” issues, but strategically communicating my feelings from a place of calmness, peace, and love is.
Now . . . I know you may be thinking, “Shanell, I can’t communicate with my family and friends. They would never understand me!”
Listen 👂🏽, your strategically communicating with your love ones isn’t to get them to understand you. (That’s the first thought you must accept.💯)
It’s to come to a common overstanding that although there is a major differentiation between how both of you perceive the world and the many circumstances and situations, you will respect each other’s journeys, decisions, and opinions. (Even if you don’t agree or like it)
The key 🔑 is, going under a rock and acting as though you don’t need anyone is never the solution. It’s actually a major part of the problem.
— You’re no longer sent invites to party’s, reunions, graduations, baby showers, cookouts, etc.
— You have no physical shoulder to lean on and you feel like you have no one to call when you’ve reached your breaking point. The ones who knew you best, you’ve run away from.
Let’s take it a bit deeper, some people won’t go to their families after they’ve distanced themselves until they need them, but then get upset when their families say,
“You’re only coming around or calling when you need something.”
It’s a double-edge sword ⚔️ because not only do they feel that way about the one who distanced themselves, but the one who distanced themselves would get deeper in their feelings and say,
“See that’s why I don’t come to you because you don’t ever have my back or you always got something to say!”
Here’s the deal, let’s put down these petty egos and prideful souls.
Think about it. . . What is there to take pride in if you’re divided from your sacred bloodline?
You say you’re outspoken, you speak your mind. Here’s the test—speak your mind, but do it from a place of calmness, peace, and love.
I can guarantee you’ll get great positive results from it!
Develop Your Phoenix Move. You are above the pettiness, stress, drama, and negativity.
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